the sweet spot
If you've been following my content (or you know me personally), I often post about two distinctly different aspects of my business.
Lifestyle Home Design (Beyond Measure Design) and Intuitive Coaching (reFrame).
What the hell does one have to do with the other? Allow me to explain.
If like me, you love a good Venn diagram, you will know when two circles overlap, there is a sweet middle ground where those two worlds collide. For BMD/reFrame, the message at the core of all I do is this - Living with Intention.
From the beginning of BMD's creation, I've been playing with the ability to build the business AND life I want. It's been an incredible journey filled with massive amounts of self-discovery.
One of the first ways I dove into this designing my life was taking stock of my abilities and talents. I know, super hard to do but trust me, so worth it to have that clarity.
I started by getting curious and asking a few questions.
What do I most want in my life?
What am I constantly being thanked for doing?
What comes naturally to me?
I knew I had a knack for connecting authentically with people (thanks to my Dad's gift of gab). I could see the big picture and shine a light on the problem area where I could offer a solution. I am a world-class listener. I have a huge heart and an empathetic soul. I also know I have a self-reflective nature and a keen sense of intuition (even though I suppressed this for a good portion of my business when in reality, it's pretty handy).
It has taken me years (14 to be exact) to really start to own these talents. To write them out for all to see without throwing up is taking considerable effort.
OK, so now that I have all this information, what do I do with it?
I worked on owning it. I created this quick 3 step process that has been incredibly helpful for me in recognizing patterns and forming a supportive lasting change in my life.
reFrame, reClaim, reBuild
reFrame the thought by stepping back and looking at the big picture.
Is this a belief I've been led to believe, or is it based on truth? Am I choosing a thought pattern that no longer serves me? What could it be instead?
reClaim the power I am giving anyone else by thinking or acting this way.
How can I call that power back to myself? What was at the root of giving my control away, and what did I think I would gain in return?
reBuild the thought into a more supportive habit that serves where I want to go.
What is my new intention moving forward? How can I adjust things slowly, so I don't fall into an old pattern?
Let me dispel a myth. Just because I've developed these tools doesn't mean I always get it right; I'm still a work in progress. I have shitty days where my mindset is in the tank, but when I recognize those moments and interrupt that train of thought with reFrame, reClaim, reBuild, it shifts my mood and stops my catastrophizing.
I honestly don't think I would have ever learnt this much about myself if I hadn't started my business. Uncovering this understanding of who you are and what you do in the world is both vulnerable and exciting.
Now, I've started to apply this approach - reFrame, reClaim, reBuild - to my business.
How does my work schedule best support my long-term goals?
Where in my business have I given decision-making power away to others?
How can I build layers of community and be of service?
Both BMD and reFrame serve a different community. With both, I am helping other people Live with Intention.
With Beyond Measure Design, I work to design the spaces people inhabit so that they support your daily life and wellbeing. We can't see or even understand this connection between our physical and emotional worlds. Home is not just a place; it's a feeling. In reFrame, I teach women how to sustainably exist inside male-dominated industries by shaping a life of their own design. Dismantling patriarchal systems and creating generational change for our daughters is the goal.
I’d love to support you in designing your next home or designing your life.
Beyond Measure Design has space for two new custom design clients this fall and reFrame has an opening for one lucky women starting October.
Until next time,